Why I Hope My Ex Was A Once-In-A-Lifetime Kind Of Love

So true, every word of it.

Thought Catalog

Yesterday I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen in awhile. As we did our quick five-minute catch-up, she asked me how my ex was doing. After I did my well rehearsed polite response, “Actually we aren’t together anymore, so I am not entirely sure,” she gave me the immediate look of sadness and sympathy that I always get. I’m well used to that look, I guess that’s what happens when the man you thought you were going to marry breaks up with you, but after giving me “the look,” she told me that she knows I’ll find someone new and I will love him just as much, if not more. Her words, meant to make me feel better about being single, really got me thinking.
 
I hope she is wrong. I hope I never find someone I love as much as him.
 
I don’t say that because…

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Worriyng and Stress

To those he may be worrying today:
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So many things are going on today. We get caught up in the idea of wanting to be successful. We see people struggle and wanting so desperately not to go down that path of that dark hurt and pain. We plan, and plan, and so many times try to determine the outcome for all of the things we want to happen. Many times our plans don’t go as well as we want them, they fail, we fall short, and we are back where we started. It seems that our dreams are broken and we become discouraged and hardened.

The bible says:
Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its on worries. Today’s trouble is enough – Matthew 6:34

This simply means to take one day at a time. Don’t worry about the little things, we will soon find out that the little things we worry about are not worth much worry, and many times the big things we worry about, are often little things. Nothing is too hard for God.

Cast your cares and concerns on the Lord. He is waiting to hear them.

All Well Wishes.

-CBJ

Who is BoB Marley

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“He (Bob Marley) had this idea, it was kind of a virologist idea, he believed he could cure racism and hate, literally cure it by injecting music and love into people’s lives. One day he was scheduled to perform at a peace concert, gunmen came to his house and shot him down. Two days later he walked out on that stage and sang. Somebody asked him why. He said the people who were trying to make this world worse are not taking a day off. How can I? Light up the darkness – I am Legend”

 

5 Things you should do for the NEW YEAR.

THE NEW YEAR is a PERFECT time to be refreshed and  become a better person. It is a way to start over. Here are five things you should do to make 2014 a MUCH better year.

5. LET GO OF ALL OLD – USELESS RELATIONSHIPS.

” Do no be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals.”- 1 Corinthians 15:33

Let’s face it. All relationships are NOT good relationships. People come in our lives for a reason. That reason may be to help us grow or simply to teach us a lesson. There comes a time to cut negative people out of your life, and the new year is a perfect time to start over.  Sometimes we outgrow friendships. When we are advancing in our achievements and careers we may need to re-evaluate our support system. Even though we may love them we may need to cut ties in order for us to advance to the next level. Go through your phone, DELETE all those numbers from people who no longer contact you or you haven’t heard from in years. DELETE all those people who only call you when they want something. Let go of all those random people in your life that mean you no good. Everything you lose will be restored to you, so its okay to let go. Its okay to love them.. just know that where GOD is about to take you in 2014 is to a better place and we have NO TIME for people who are not considerate and have our best interest at heart.  They are hurtful and need to be let go at once. Let go of the guys and girls that hurt you too. We are about to rid you of all unhealthy relationships. So take the time to reflect on all of your bad relationships, evaluate who really needs to stay in your life and who DOES NOT. BE totally honest with yourself. Check them off and be ready to go into 2014 a new better you.

4. FORGIVE THOSE WHO HURT YOU.

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So you still can’t stand that guy or girl that broke your heart? You still talk about that friend who stole you boyfriend, Do you still have hate in your heart for that parent that left you when you were younger?

Maybe your scenario isn’t that deep but you still must FORGIVE. God sent JESUS CHRIST so that we may be forgiven for all of our sins. In order for us to forgive we must forgive each other. Pray about it. Its hard but God will help you. He will show you why he took you through each encounter with people who hurt you. God also blesses the person who prays for their enemy. Once you forgive them and pray for them, watch your heart grow  and become pure.

3. Learn to Budget your MONEY.

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We all know money comes sooo slow and leaves soooo fast. We have to learn to budget our money. Through my years in college I have learned that a bulk of my money goes to FAST FOOD. I will literally spend about $5-7.00 on a meal and when I get it it’s either cold or something that is not what I wanted.  I also spend so much money on clothing and gas. Look for better ways to make your money last. Financial literacy is a problem that many Americans face. We are uneducated about debt and how fast it is accumulated.  Research your credit score and find out how you can eliminate credit card debt and ways you can improve your credit score.  I can’t help you on this matter because it is still a problem I face, but here are some links that can better help you.

http://under30ceo.com/6-tips-on-money-management-for-young-people/

http://www.dailyfinance.com/2013/07/11/money-management-tips-millennials-new-jobs/

2. Set GOALS AND STICK WITH THEM.

Learn how to sit down and right out your plans. Create a journal unique to what you need to do help you achieve your goals. Give yourself deadlines and set goals that are easy and attainable. Set long term goals but be sure to allow yourself time to establish your goals.

Buy planners and pretty pens to make your notebook easy and pretty to use.

WE have many goals and things we are about to accomplish so get those goals ready because we are about to achieve some goals and GREAT THINGS ARE COMING OUR WAY.

1. The MOST IMPORTANT THING – SPEND TIME WITH GOD.

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I recently learned on this journey to spend more and more time with GOD. I talk to him like he is one of my best friends. I have hard times concentrating to, when I do I lock myself in my bathroom or I praise his name when I am driving in my car.

Spending time with god makes everything so much better. It puts everything in perspective. You can go to GOD simple, like you would do one of your closest friends.- because that is what he is a- FRIEND indeed- He loves you and wants to help you. He is so awesome because he will allow awesome things to happen in your life. He will help you and guide you and tell you what you need to do.

When you spend time with GOD you will soon see him talking and interacting with you through the HOLY SPIRIT. Your gut instincts will start leading you and he will tell you what you should and shouldn’t do. The more time you spend with him, the easier it is to hear his voice.

Get you a bible and read and study. Turn on worship music and give him praise. If there is something that you want, go to GOD with SPECIFIC prayers and tell GOD what you want him to do.

After you pray and worship, grab a journal and begin to journal and write. I learn that that is when GOD puts on my heart what he wants me to know. Through journaling. I am quiet and I am writing and all of a sudden words pour out unto my notebook that I had no intentions on writing. It is random thoughts that come in my head and it is GOD speaking through me through my writing. So grab a journal and begin journaling.

I wish you all the best new year ever. WE ARE ALL IN STORE FOR POSITIVE THINGS. GET READY. GET SET. and GET GOD.

All Well Wishes.

-CBJ

To My Future Mate. . .

 

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If I allowed you to read this  then that means you’re very special.

You make me laugh, you make me smile, but most of all you make me HAPPY.

I love the way you look at me, I love your kisses. I love everything about you.

I just want you to know that I’ve been hurt badly before. I’ve experienced terrible pain. I’ve prayed daily for strength for GOD to forgive those who have hurt me so one day I can be forgiven. I have loved with every once of my body and I feel like I have been hurt before as well and I’ve been drugged and had the love sucked out of me without and once left to give… I have been down. I’ve had low self esteem about my color, hair, appearance and all of that. I have hoped and wished for someone to love me but I always came up short.

I don’t know why GOD loves me so much but he do, because he sent me YOU.

You know of my past yet you forgive me, you’re here when I need someone the most, you listen to me, love me, and you never judge me. I just pray you remain the same. Please don’t take advantage of me because my love for you is so real and pure.

I know you will be an awesome family man. You will make for an awesome father and a wonderful husband.

I feel so complete with you. So Safe. So Loved… and I now understand why God placed you in my life. I see why I was in a holding place with bad people who meant me no good for so long. God was allowing you to grow for me. He was also teaching me how to forgive, and to understand that everyone doesn’t have my best interest at heart. This allowed me to be able to fully appreciate it when someone really loves me. So I really appreciate you.

You have a REALLY good heart but you’re kinda tough. You LOVE YOUR family and YOU LOVE YOUR MOM.

She’s such a nice woman to raise a handsome, wholesome, loving man like you. She’s a tough lady and she taught you to far GOD.

BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY,

I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU LOVE GOD, and you love him more than anybody in the whole world. You acknowledge GOD in all that you do and I know he lead you to me for a reason.

I know I’m playful.. I know I can act crazy sometimes, but just bare with me because I really LOVE YOU with all my heart.

I LOVE YOU so MUCH… BUT I LOVE GOD even more. He placed us together to help live out work through him. We will forever praise his name. Prayerfully, together. Forever. . .

 

With MUCH LOVE and BEST WISHES,

CBJ.

 

(saw this on safe haven I really wanted to do it. I plan on saving it until I meet that special person and am certain that it is the real thing with confirmation from GOD.) Hope you enjoy.

I know I’m playful.. I know I can act crazy sometimes, but just bare with me because I really LOVE YOU with all my heart.